Let's love ourselves, flaws and all

Have you ever heard the phrase "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"? Well if you didn't know what it means, let me give you a brief definition:

'someone which one person finds beautiful or attractive but may not appeal to another'.

Let me break it down for you - we are not all going to like the same things or be attracted to the same people. That's just life and it is what should be expected. God made each and everyone of us different, therefore it is more than normal for us to like different things. What I find difficult to understand is why a society that is made up of so many different people, races and cultures is bent on trying to make everything objective. For instance why does there have to be an objective standard of beauty?

These days everyone wants to be curvy and thick, why is that? Not too long almost all of the women that appeared on TV had a slim figure. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with wanting to be thick, curvy or slim but what I find frustrating is when society makes people believe that they need to look a certain way in order to be deemed beautiful or attractive. If you want to look a certain way, do you but make sure you are doing it for you and not because you feel pressured. Because honey I'm telling you if you're trying to keep up with what society wants, you will loose yourself, because society ALWAYS I mean ALWAYS changes its mind. Look at the rapper Lil Kim, I don't mean to call her out but you can clearly see the impact that society's so-called beauty standards has had on her. She is barely recognisable and we all need to learn from her mistakes and pray that the Lord will help her to find herself. And its not just her, there is a high percentage of people who have gone under the knife and have risked their lives just so their appearance satisfies the "ideal standard of beauty". There are so many lives that have been lost under the knife. We all need to learn to accept ourselves the way the Lord made us, flaws and all, heck I'm still learning!

We all have to remember that whether we like it or not we are influencing the people around us through our actions, so by working to achieve society's idea of beauty we are indirectly telling someone else that they are not beautiful unless they look how the world wants them to look. This applies to men too, some of y'all are over here taking steroids and going under the knife just to look a certain way and for who? Yourself or the world? This issue is so widespread because it affects our every day lives, especially our social media lives. Think about it, when you are trying to post pictures on Instagram what's your thought process? What influences what pictures you choose to post? I reckon around 75% of you reading this think primarily of what photo you believe appeals to others or what photo is likely to get the most likes. But it shouldn't be that way, you should post a picture because you like it and want to post it not because it is likely to get the most likes. Self-love and acceptance is not easy, but I promise with time and most importantly God on your side you'll get there. Once you're comfortable in yourself, your self-confidence will inspire others, trust me!

#BeYou

I originally wrote this in 2019 (Glory to God alone) in my other blog, I just never published it but I believe the content of this blog still holds true today.

Goodbye for now!